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When Dreams Change (Literally, not Figuratively)
I've had one recurring dream for, oh, 15 years? It's about a boy. One I had a girlhood crush on for, like, ever. The weird thing is, it was always the same dream until probably the last two years. In...
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Introducing: the Queen of Broken Hearts
Ladies and gentlemen and pervs! I have wonderful news. I'M PREGNANT. Hahaha, just kidding. You have to have sex to get pregnant. Oh wait, please read that last line again while playing this: ANYWAY....
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How Vanessa Williams Ruined and Saved My Life
This is a post from the "Queen of Broken Hearts." Enjoy! The year was 1992. I was barely out of braces that had taken custody of my face for the previous four years. My skin looked like a proverbial...
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Big Love, Affairs, and other Ramblings
My hair is gigundous today. This is what happens when I forget a comb, and am forced to use hair products with the word "volumizing" in the description. Don't mind my man hands...which also apparently...
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ABG: Always Be Grooming
Last week I posted this: I've decided that I'm going to gauge how excited I am about meeting someone (a dude someone) by my relative excitement (and subsequent follow-through) in grooming my nether...
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Dating Rules: Pitfalls, Mantras and Freedom
“We’ve got to have rules and obey them. After all we’re not savages.” - Jack, from ‘Lord of the Flies’ by William Golding The human race has always lived by rules of some description, many of them...
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You Are Powerful
I sent a friend an email recently, letting him know how proud I was of him and how I was excited about the work he was doing. In his reply, he thanked me and confessed that he had been doubting himself...
View ArticleOn the Eve of a New Year...
2012 was a doozy. This year reminds me a lot of the biblical creation story. I was without form and void...and then boomsauce, life was like, "Let there be light, motherfucker." And like being blasted...
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What is Slow Blogging (and Why I'm Doing It)
Dear Friends, I love you. You know I do. Here's how much I love you. When I think of you, I look like this: But I've felt guilty lately because I leave you hanging for weeks at a time with no SUPER...
View ArticleOne Ring to Rule them All: a Story of Purity
I received a special ring somewhere around my 16th birthday. The ring was a purity ring. I know what you’re thinking… …”why does that whore have a purity ring?" And I would say unto you, “That’s a...
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Love Managed by the Hands of a Clock
This post is a guest post from The Queen of Broken Hearts. Enjoy! When I was 15, I cheated on the love of my life with a Danish smurf. Or, rather, a 16-year-old blue-haired Dane named Joakim who made...
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Sittin' and Thinkin'
My parents tell the story of my dad finding me on the couch, alone, four years old, hand to chin, staring off into space. When he asked what I was doing, I said simply, “Thinking.” It’s not as if I’m...
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Being Nice vs. Being Kind
That summer, I was 16. I was emerging from horribly awkward phase and was finally (FINALLY) far less “little girl” and far more “young woman.” That summer, he was 14. My little brother had spent the...
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On Being an Adult
I used to tell people that the first time I felt like an adult was when my divorce was finalized. Five years of marriage, a six year relationship, all boiled down to nine numbers stamped in red on a...
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Brick by Brick
This: Mostly, the tears have subsided—“in public, anyway,” she says one afternoon, as we sit in a Tribeca café. “I still cry a lot.” Forget what you know of the church. Just imagine what it is like to...
View ArticleThink the Right Words, Demand the Right Things
I was invited by The Womens Fund of Central Ohio to discuss Teen Dating Violence Awareness month. This post is my response to a round-table discussion with Rae Reed, Lara Ketler, Nichole Dunn, Celeste...
View ArticleLet's Talk About Rape
Let's talk about rape, shall we? It's an important talk, so don't get squeamish. It's not a talk about a "women's issue." It's not a talk about football, or if children can rape, or whether or not...
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On Expansiveness
"Stop acting like a 90 year old woman," he said, both kindly and forcefully, as good coaches do. We had been going through my goals for the next few years, talking about how I can take my life from...
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Dear Life, Quit being a Dick
OK, fine, life isn't that big of a dick, but the title popped into my head and I knew I had to use it. I mean, it's KIND OF a dick. It's taken two good people I adored from this world in the last two...
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74 Days of Love
This is a guest post from a reader who wanted to share his story. I love this piece because it's honest, raw, and mirrors a lot of what we all go through with love and loss. I met her in November...
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